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You can
make mistakes in loving-which is why forgiveness is such a vital part of your
loving actions toward your spouse. If you are forgiving, you are more likely to
be forgiven.
· Take your partner out to different places
such as out for dinners, movies, or vacation.
· Remember, service and love are inherently connected.
Whatever you know your partners needs, that is what you should be doing to love
him or her. The moment you start insisting on your way or doing what you
want, you have stopped loving your spouse.
In the excitement of a new romance, it seems easy and
natural to communicate your love for
the other person. After marriage, however, many couples settle into a routine
in which one or both partners feel as though they are taken for granted. Don't
let another day go by without reinforcing your love for your spouse. Follow
these steps to show your partner how much you really love them.
- Remember, love is an act of
the will, not a warm feeling or a clever expression of experience. True
love requires you to deny yourself and seek to meet your beloved's needs.
- Find out your partner's
preferred "Love Language." Do they know you love them when you
speak words of love? Or maybe they feel loved by your acts of service?
Some people feel loved by receiving little gifts, and others by loving
touches. Real love is not based on your preference but your
partner's.
- Speak your love. Clear
communication will let your partner know how much you love them. Speaking
from your experience is a way of sharing yourself so that your partner can
hear it. You might say, "My heart expands when you walk into the
room" or "I think about you throughout my day, and each time I
do, I smile." Say whatever is true. Remember that actions often speak
louder than words; don't just say something, do something.
- Show your love through your
actions, such as drawing a bath, giving a massage, doing the dishes, or
writing a poem. Choose an action that you know your partner will
appreciate. Remember, denying yourself never means doing things
begrudgingly. If you communicate the desire not to do something
loving, you may as well not be doing it.
- Spend time being
present with your partner. (This is often the least used, but the most powerful form of
loving.) Turn off the phone, the TV, computer, and the radio and sit
together allowing yourselves to experience each other. Being present with
your husband or wife obviously provides the opportunity to serve him or
her, so be available to love your spouse.
- Speak the truth. Telling your
partner the truth is a loving thing to do because it shows trust and
respect. The truth doesn't have to be positive to be meaningful. It just
needs to be true. Show your spouse unconditional love, but not
unconditional acceptance. Don't be caught up into the cultural notion that
to love is to never seek to help someone better himself or herself. Use
gracious words to point out your spouse's weaknesses and offer
constructive suggestions on how to improve these things. Always be willing
to accept correction from your spouse too.
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