This week we share a powerful message from Leadership & Executive Coach, Matthew Gould. Matt cautions that this message is, Rated "R", so you have been warned.
This post is rated "R". The content is not for everybody. It is restricted to individuals and teams who want to make a massive difference this year. It is restricted to people who are willing to experience pain, discomfort, and failure in order to increase revenue, add significant value, and to grow personally and professionally. This post is restricted to people who are seeking more and wanting to contribute at a higher level yet they don't know how based on the culture and environment they find themselves in. This post is rated "R" for RESPONSIBILITY
It is time you take 100% responsibility for everything.
If you have any level of dissatisfaction in your life, it is up to you to make a change. As you reflect on last year and forecast what you want this year to look like, consider yourself as the sole person responsible for making the changes you want to experience. To narrow it down, let's look at 4 areas where you can take more responsibility.
1) Yourself: No one is responsible for you. Your parents, your spouse, your partner, your friends are not responsible for your personal development. Your leader, your company, your co-workers are not responsible for your professional development.
You are responsible for you.
Stop looking outside of yourself. Stop blaming others. Stop waiting for management to create a plan for you. Your personal and professional development plan is up to you. Take action today by writing down why you want to change, what you want to develop, and how you will take action to make this happen. Ensure that what you write down comes from within and that it is something you can't live without. Then find the courage to share the plan and be willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish it.
2) Your relationships: You are responsible for the state of each relationship you are involved in. The relationships you hold with your family, your spouse, your partner, and your friends is up to you. When you take 100% responsibility for each relationship you will experience incredible transformation.
It takes two to tango and it might be time to change the dance.
Remember, if you are wanting to make a massive difference this year, change is mandatory. In your career, consider taking 100% responsibility for the relationships you hold with your leader, your co-workers, the team you support, and your clients. You will have to show up in these relationships with a lot more intention if you want to experience a higher level of connection and mutual value. If you are struggling in a relationship, stop looking for the other person to change. Instead, with the "R" word in your heart and mind, start developing the skills and access the courage you need to influence the relationship you want to experience. It might also be a great time for you to apply a little Relationship Oil to reduce some of the unnecessary friction that exists within certain relationships.
3) Your Contribution: How are you contributing personally and professionally this year? What is your definition of success? Have you written it down? Without further delay, create some time and space to define what success means to you. There are 2 areas to consider to keep it simple. Personal success and Professional success. When you connect with your definition, you will have a much clearer vision of your personal and professional purpose and the fire within will be stoked! Don't go another second without creating and defining what success looks like this year. Armed with your definition, lean into your strengths and contribute more than you ever have before.
4) Your Community: What do others need? How can you support your team and co-workers? How can you take responsibility for the community around you? What charities and causes need your leadership and energy? Who can you serve? When you consider the world outside of yourself and you take more responsibility for what is happening around you, the fire within burns even more intensely.
You are a part of your community, stop excluding yourself from it.
Get involved. Contribute. Donate. Give. Serve. If it is not up to you, then you are not committed to taking responsibility this year. Consider showing up as a leader no matter what. Consider taking responsibility to positively impact the lives of those around you.
There is a higher level to experience this year. You are capable of so much more. You can take more responsibility for the roles you play. Blame, excuses, and distancing yourself from responsibility will not get you very far. In fact, it will hold you back and negatively impact you and those around you. Enough is enough. Live on purpose. To experience the freedom you deserve and to contribute this year beyond what you could even imagine, take 100% responsibility. Courage, vulnerability, humility, and a defined purpose may be required AND it will be worth it.
Take responsibility. It is a choice you have the power to make. Choose it.
Drago
